Know What You Don’t Want…
The
First Step to Manifesting All of Your Desires!
by Kathryn Yarborough
The first step to manifesting your desires is
knowing what you don’t want because from knowing
what you don’t want you can better identify what
you do want. Manifestation is the process of
transforming your desires into reality so you need
to know what you really want. I’ve broken this
process down into six steps:
- Know what you don’t want
- Know what you do want
- Believe you will receive it by clearing your
blocks to it and opening the flow of abundance
- Ask for it
- Give thanks for it
- Follow any intuition or Guidance you receive
Many of us feel stuck circling around the same
complaints over and over. We often don’t even get
around to identifying our desires in some sort of
practical or useful form. We may say them with
wishful longing. For example, “When I win the $30
Billion dollar lottery, I’ll be happy to give you
some money, buy my dream home, take a great
vacation, and do work that I love. Oh, if only I
could win the lottery.” Sound familiar?
Instead of manifesting our desires, most of us
think about how little money we have; how annoying
it is when our partner, friend, boss, or child
doesn’t listen to us; how frustrating it is to not
get the business we think we want; or how we think
we want to lose weight but we eat the cookies,
cake, or brownies anyway.
What I love about the first step to
manifestation is that when I use it, my mind
shifts from complaint to possibility and my mood
goes from hopelessness to excited. So let me tell
you how this step works. Whenever you find
yourself complaining or being upset about
something, recognize that this is the first step
to manifestation.
For example, recently I’ve been feeling annoyed
that my schedule is very full and I feel like I
don’t have time to relax. I could easily
rationalize the situation and stay in upset. I
could think, Most, if not all, of the things that
I’m doing are wonderful and I should be grateful I
have so many great things going on in my life.
However, when I think that I still feel too busy,
stressed, and annoyed. When I notice that in fact
I’m feeling upset and that this is the first step
to manifestation, I get to ask myself, “If I don’t
like feeling too busy and stressed, what do I
want?” When I do this I begin to feel hopeful
because I remember I can create my future to be
other than my present.
To do this process I need to have my “Observer”
present. This is the part of ourselves that can
notice what we’re doing. Without an Observer, we
will continue to do a behavior in our habitual way
and not even realize we’re doing it. This is much
like what we do when we’re breathing or brushing
our teeth—we go through the motions, but we’re not
aware of the sensations.
I just want to clarify that the Observer part
of our selves is different from our Judge or
Critic part. When I explain the concept of
Observer to many of my clients they at first
confuse it with the part of themselves that
notices what they’re doing and criticizes
themselves for it. For example, if the Judge is
activated, it might say, “See, all you do is
complain. You’ll never get ahead that way.” The
Observer is neutral. It doesn’t judge either
positively or negatively. It just notices. When
your Observer is present, you might think, “I
notice I just complained that I don’t have enough
money.”
I challenge you for the rest of this week to
observe your thinking and speaking and notice
anytime you complain, feel annoyed, or don’t like
something (something that’s happening or a way
you’re feeling). If you are new to this practice,
you might want to ask a buddy to partner with you.
The two of you could develop a gentle way of
reminding each other to notice any time you
complain or you talk about upsets.
There is nothing wrong with feeling upset or
annoyed or to not like something. In fact, it’s a
great thing because it’s the first step to
manifestation if we use it to be that. It’s what
we do with our experience that separates the
manifesters out from the victims (or
non-manifesters). A person who is a manifester
will observe her or himself complaining or feeling
bad and then go to the next step… “If I don’t want
to not have enough money, what do I want?”
Look for “Know What You Do Want… The Second
Step to Manifesting All of Your Desires” in the
next issue of On Purpose Woman magazine.
